I decided that I needed to go to the temple this week. I try to go there at least two times a month – usually early on a Friday or Saturday morning. It had been a few weeks, so I decided it was time to go. Friday I was in a funk, went to bed late, and didn’t want to get up to go to the temple. I woke up early anyway and lay in bed thinking about it. Because I didn’t want to go, and my brain was telling me things like: “It will take too long.” “You don’t want to do that.” “You
Often, we attribute our level of happiness or unhappiness in life to things outside of our control – our job, our kids, our spouse, our home, our health. We so often think that it is our circumstances that create our lives and that most are out of our control. We think specific thoughts for so long or with so much emotion and belief behind them that we accept them as “real.” For example: My job is hard.
I have to take care of my children.
I was devastated when she died.
Do you like to argue with reality? For the longest time, I did (and sometimes still do). As Byron Katie says, “When you argue with reality, you lose, but only 100% of the time.” Your spouse letting go of some of your cherished beliefs and maybe even leaving the church are your new reality. You can deny it. You can wish it away. You can pretend it isn’t happening. Our brains trick us into thinking that if we don’t “admit defeat” that it isn’t real. However, the truth is that
“The term ‘transformation’ is frequently misused…to refer to a ‘big change’…Transformation and change are different phenomena…Transformation is a function of altering the way you are being – to create something that is currently not possible in your reality.” (The Last Word on Power, Gross) We see transformation often in nature, for example –a caterpillar turning into a butterfly. We may assume the caterpillar wants to be a butterfly. But what if the caterpillar wants to be