It’s Christmastime. There’s love and joy and peace in the air. The tree is decorated, the nativity scene is on display. The stockings are hung by the chimney with care. Anticipation is everywhere. Except at your house. At your house, you are feeling stress. Your spouse has changed his views about Christmas. You are not sure what Christmas is going to look like in this new situation. You’ve always enjoyed the fun and religious aspects of the holiday, but now your spouse has di
I recently went on a kick and checked out every book in the local library by Wendy Watson Nelson, President Nelson’s wife. I found a beautiful and insightful book called Change Your Questions Change Your Life. It’s life coaching in an eye-catching coffee table book. I ordered it for myself immediately and recommend it to you. You can tell the premise of the book from the title, and as a life coach, that is what I strive to do – to ask questions that will allow you to change y
As members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, we teach the value and blessing of paying tithing. We often quote the scripture in Malachi 3:10 about the blessings of heaven being poured out so there is not room enough to receive them. Who would want to pass up on that promise? We share faith-promoting stories of when paying tithing somehow made money last for the month or an ancestor who didn’t lose their farm because they paid tithing. We see the payment of t
It’s Primary Program season. It is a time where many spouses who would not otherwise come to church show up to see and support their children. On the surface, having your husband come to church seems like a nice gesture, but as those of us who have had a spouse leave the church know, “it’s complicated.” You want to be happy that DH is coming to church, but you worry that it will be awkward, or he will be annoyed, or criticize something about the church. Then you get those war
I’ve been thinking about the lies we tell ourselves. It’s a big topic, and I’ll just skim the surface here. I know my brain has been lying to me a lot recently. All the “I’m not enough” thoughts have been on full volume for the last few days, but in addition to the unsolicited “voices in my mind that say I’m not enough.” (You Say by Lauren Daigle) we tell ourselves lies without even realizing it. When a spouse leaves the church, my clients tend to wonder why do I have to chan
Ah, a child filled with joy with his scriptures open! Is that how your home looks? No? Don’t you sometimes wish it would or think it should? In truth, what I hear from many of you is that you feel overwhelmed by the responsibility to teach your children the gospel at home. As a Latter-day Saint woman, whose husband has left the church, you are the only one teaching and living the gospel in your home to start with, and now you are being asked to have a home-centered church
At the beginning of the month, we looked at three tools to make achieving your goals inevitable. Last week we went into depth on the idea of living from your future self. This week let’s talk about how to keep the commitments you put on your calendar. We’ll figure out what motivates you to accomplish a goal and how to create that for yourself. You’ve chosen your goal – the result you want. You went through your “future me” scenarios last week and decided which future you want
On Sunday, I had the privilege of attending a stake conference where Neal L. Anderson, one of the apostles, was a speaker. These are the four lines of his talk that impacted me the most (this may not be a direct quote; it’s what I wrote in my notes during church). How do we navigate through the many difficulties of life?
We CHOOSE to have faith.
If you don’t CHOOSE, you will be confused constantly.
We find the way after the choice is made. He was referring directly to f
Recently I had the opportunity to participate in a ropes course with a personal development group I’ve been working with this whole year. Each activity was designed to get us thinking about our thoughts, how similar situations show up in our lives, and what we can learn from the exercise that might help us conquer the same issues in real life. Interestingly enough for me, one of the most powerful exercises was the trust fall. I don’t think I’ve ever actually done a trust fall