Do you like to argue with reality? For the longest time, I did (and sometimes still do). As Byron Katie says, “When you argue with reality, you lose, but only 100% of the time.” Your spouse letting go of some of your cherished beliefs and maybe even leaving the church are your new reality. You can deny it. You can wish it away. You can pretend it isn’t happening. Our brains trick us into thinking that if we don’t “admit defeat” that it isn’t real. However, the truth is that