“Truth is knowledge of things as they are, and as they were, and as they are to come.” Doctrine & Covenants 93:24 Last week we talked about the thoughts or the story we tell ourselves versus the facts that are observable and neutral. Once we have the facts, we can deal with things as “they really are.” We cannot deal with our reality if we aren’t willing to face it. Believe me; I’m a pro at this. My spouse left the church within the first three years of our 26-year marriage.
“Truth is knowledge of things as they are, and as they were, and as they are to come.” Doctrine & Covenants 93:24 Today I want to go back to basics. First, let’s start with “things as they are.” Sounds easy enough, but our brains like to deceive us. Our minds are amazing tools that process and do their best to make sense of information. Often we tell ourselves stories to synthesize observations and fit them into the beliefs and concepts we’ve previously developed. In regards
The ability to forget pain is a double-edged sword. Without the ability to forget pain, we would never have a second boyfriend. We would never have more than one child. We would never heal from physical and emotional wounds. We would never try again after we had failed. It is imperative that we forget pain in order to continue with life. It is one of the great blessings of the Atonement of Jesus Christ that we can be healed completely and move forward with life. On the other
I’ve been working on and studying forgiveness for years – since the very beginning of my journey of having a spouse leave the church. As I reread the book You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay this past week, I was reminded of a couple of helpful ideas when learning to forgive. One idea that I learned from Louse Hay years ago that has helped me immensely through life is the idea that everyone is doing the best they can with the knowledge and ability they have. If they knew
Over the Christmas break, I started reading the book The Priesthood Power of Women by Barbara Morgan Gardner. I haven’t finished it yet, but I highly recommend it. I bought it for several of my friends for Christmas. I feel like it has changed over time, but when I started dealing with my spouse’s faith crisis in approximately 1994, I was young and mistakenly thought that my eternal salvation was at stake and that priesthood power was robbed from me because of his choices. I