Wouldn’t that be awesome - to produce self-confidence out of thin air? Well, why not?
Where does self-confidence come from anyway? Can you really create it out of thin air?
Self-confidence comes from our own thoughts. It comes from trusting ourselves and our abilities. It is not an inborn trait given to just a lucky few who exude confidence no matter the occasion. Self-confidence is a feeling - a state of being - that we create with our thoughts. And where do our thoughts come from? I’m not exactly sure, but, at times, they do seem to come out of thin air.
A big part of self-confidence comes down to trusting yourself and knowing you will do what you have said you will do - even when you don’t feel like it. This is very different from saying you will do something and then hoping you will follow through.
Is there an area of your life in which you know you will do what you have said you will do - even when you don’t feel like it? An example might be taking care of your baby. I know I would take care of my baby, feed her, change her diaper, hold her, and comfort her - even when I didn’t feel like it. That was something I had confidence in. It was so important to me that I knew I would follow through even if I didn’t feel like it (because seriously how often do you “feel like” changing a dirty diaper?).
Is there an area of your life in which you want to do something, but, when it gets uncomfortable, you just don’t do it? An example of saying you will do something and hoping you will follow through is most people’s New Year’s resolutions. You say you will go to the gym at least three days a week and you really hope to, but when your schedule gets busy, or your friend wants to hang out, or you get tired of getting up an hour earlier than you used to, you let go of that “resolution”. When you don’t follow through you lose trust in yourself - and a little bit of your self-confidence.