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How to Create Confidence Out of Thin Air (part 3 of 3)



Since self-confidence is a feeling we create for ourselves by our own thinking, it doesn’t have to be “proven” before we can believe it. Let’s look at an example:

When I am first learning something I am most likely pretty bad at it since I’ve never learned it before. If I am waiting for evidence to prove that I am a good student and I get a terrible grade on a test or an assignment, I will have “evidence” that I am not a good student.

If I have to wait for evidence that I am a good student before I believe it, then, when I am first learning something, and most likely doing pretty poorly at it since I’ve never learned it before, I will feel terrible each time I do poorly on a test or an assignment. This will prove to me that I am not a good student and will perpetuate the cycle of not being a good student unless I change my thoughts. My mind will interpret this as meaning that I am not a good student and then will continue to collect evidence to support the “fact” that I am not a good student.

If I believe I am a good student right from the start then, when I do poorly on a test or assignments, I won’t make it mean that I am a terrible student because I already believe I am a good student. From the belief that I am a good student, I will make the “failure” mean that I learned how not to do something and that I will do better next time. I will learn from the experience and try again because that’s what good students do and I am confident in my belief that I am a good student. In the beginning, there is no evidence for it, but as I continue to believe that I am a good student my mind looks for and collects evidence to support my belief.

Our brains collect evidence for whatever we focus on and believe. The evidence comes AFTER the belief. You can choose thoughts that produce a feeling of confidence even if you have no evidence that it is true. The evidence will follow the belief. Your thoughts and beliefs must come before the evidence. Choose confidence just because you want to. Choose to trust yourself because you can. Choose to think confident thoughts and see how your results change. As Wayne Dyer said, “You will see it when you believe it.”