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Of Love and Ice Cream

“You know what I’m craving? A pint of Ben & Jerry’s fudge brownie ice cream. Would you go to the freezer and get that for me?”

“Sure honey.”

“Thanks, Wow! that looks delicious. Would you get a spoon and take a bite for me?”


“Thank you. Will you just eat that whole pint for me? I really am craving ice cream right now. I am so glad you are eating that for me. I love the flavor of Ben & Jerry’s fudge brownie ice cream.”

Sounds like a crazy conversation doesn’t it? No one else can eat your ice cream for you so that you can enjoy it.

What about love? Can someone else feel your love for you? When you say, “I love you.” Does that make the other person feel love? Many of us think that is the case, but let's look at it a little closer.

Love is a feeling. A feeling, at its most basic, is a chemical reaction in your body, or if you want to think of it in a more energetic way, it is a vibration in your body. Who can feel that reaction in your body? Can your spouse? Can your child? Can your parent? No, only you can feel that in your body.

Can your spouse make you feel love? When he says, “I love you” do you feel love? If your answer is “yes”, why is that? What do you think when your spouse says, “I love you”? It’s often not conscious, but If your answer was “yes” then you thought something positive and then you felt the feeling of love.

You feel loved because of your THOUGHT - not because your spouse said words. You could have a negative thought even when your spouse says the words, “I love you.” He may even be feeling love inside himself, but if you choose to think something negative then you will NOT feel love. Crazy, isn’t it?

You feel love because of your thoughts.

You are in control of your thoughts.

You cannot delegate your desire to feel love any more than you can delegate the enjoyment of eating ice cream to another person.

If you want Ben & Jerry’s, go get it, eat it and enjoy it!

If you want love, think thoughts that create the feeling of love, and enjoy the feeling!

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